Our Unique Talk at Voice of Slum

REDefine collaborated with non-menstruators for the first time to take up the opportunity of spreading awareness on another side of the gender spectrum.

Voice of Slums is a Noida-based NGO which focuses on providing children from slums with opportunities to reach their full potential through various education and employment prospects. While REDefine has collaborated with them previously, this endeavour was a new avenue for the organisation. This was the first talk being conducted by non-menstruators for non-menstruators, a very new group and a very new perspective. 

Our team, comprising four teenage boys, was quite nervous when we got off our car, did one final bag check, a relatively quick headcount, and entered the outer slum area. Google maps treated us, men, no different than our female counterparts who conducted previous talks. We found ourselves jostling through tiny meandering streets in this extensive labyrinth, asking bystanders for directions, and trying to read sign language to locate our destination. 

After what one could say took forever, we finally stood in front of a tiny authentic building with a large board showcasing the NGO’s name. We immediately felt welcomed as we crossed the ground floor occupied by young, vibrant girls. Next, we met with the head of the organization Mr Bhanu Pratap Singh. Since we had already been in contact with him for the past few weeks, our meeting was short and smooth. We exchanged pleasantries and went over our plan before he directed us to a classroom-like setup, crowded with curious boys between the ages of 9-14, wondering why they were abruptly gathered. The stage was set for us to begin what we came for.

We knew that getting the children to open up immediately was an unreasonable demand, so we kicked things off with a game of catch. We threw a ball around the room and whoever caught it had to say their names and hobbies out loud. To our surprise, we found many fascinating personalities, including voracious readers and brilliant artists, some of whose paintings we got to view. Now that things seemed much more comfortable, Adit began the introduction by telling them our goal (creating awareness) and then explained the basic concept of reproduction to give them surface-level context, followed by my part.

I covered puberty, and to create more relativity, I asked them to first reflect upon any physical changes they had recently observed in their bodies, being on the receiving end of some pretty hilarious answers like a thicker scalp or even uneven limb lengths (yes, someone actually said that). After I was finished, Adit extended those physical changes to changes in reproductive organs which helped explain the concept of anatomy quite fluently. While there were some initial turning heads and giggles, a few prepared jokes of ours, along with the seriousness in our tone, managed to keep things under control. We kept piping in at regular intervals to ensure they understood everything, often asking them to give us a loud cheer to keep their energy high.

Krishna carried forward the heavier part of the talk by giving a detailed view of the menstrual cycle and its irregularity. This topic took the longest for the children to successfully digest. Taking into account all of our inputs, he showed them how sanitary pads work and answered personal inquiries like what symptoms one should worry about when their sister or mother is menstruating. Furthermore, we also learnt how some kids themselves bought pads for their mothers and sisters, which was inspiring to hear.

The last portion on pain, feelings and sex was picked up by Yug, who, with his witty humour, made the section quite fun for all of us. His section on consent and sexual assault ended our talk on a considerably serious note. The children agreed with our views on it. They repeated the importance of consent aloud to further reiterate this idea. Our idea of a pictorial explanation proved to be of value as it helped the students to be able to comfortably identify the different reproductive organs and, by the end, explain their uses.

We also conducted a survey at the end to test the extent of change we were able to bring in the boys’ mindsets. Far from expected, the students got almost all of the questions right except the one asking whether periods were a disease, which was a notion we wanted to dispel but visibly failed to. To their surprise, we also brought chocolates, and sweets for them, which they more than happily devoured,  bringing great joy to us. As the children started leaving the room, they complimented our initiative and gave us high-fives for whatever we had done for them. It was at that moment we knew we had made a difference in the lives of those children. Overall, it was a great learning experience for the entire team. We all were profoundly satisfied with the small contributions we had made towards the beginning of a much more aware and understanding society.

Here are some links for you to check out Voice of Slum’s work: 

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Good talk, peeps.

Article by Aadi Raj Dewan from the REDefine team

Our Talk at Voice of Slum

Dear reader,

Voice of Slum is a non-profit that focuses on transforming a generation of children in slum settings with education and opportunities to participate in mainstream society.  It is located in the middle of an overcrowded shanty town and is cloaked by clusters of small shops and houses. Our second offline talk of 2022, held on the 8th of August, was conducted at this small NGO.

The journey to the NGO was surprisingly eventful. Since none of us had been to a slum before, we weren’t sure what to expect. Almost getting run over by an autorickshaw wasn’t a part of our plan. Thankfully we had no other mishaps, and the nervousness we felt washed away once we saw the children eagerly waiting for us at the door. 

We gave our talk to a group of 25-30 girls between the ages of 12-17 and their teachers, who were present and listening throughout.

Before jumping into the meticulously planned script, we started with a ball game to break the ice. This was an easy way to introduce ourselves and ensure our audience was comfortable with us before we began discussing personal topics. We asked the girls what bodily changes they had noticed in themselves over the last few years. Most of the girls looked too nervous to say anything, so we didn’t get too many answers. However, after encouragement from their teachers, a few girls listed observations like growth in their height, widening of their hips, development of breasts, increased rates of sweat, etc. 

This conversation initiated our introduction to the phenomenon of puberty. We talked about the changes associated with puberty and how the sexes are affected by it in different ways. We repeatedly ensured them that what they were experiencing was completely normal, they were not alone, and there was nothing to be ashamed of. 

Discussing the difference between male and female reproductive systems was crucial. However, we feared they would be uncomfortable doing so since it is not openly discussed in their environment. In fact, we were also stressed about being interrupted and stopped by the teachers. However, our fears were tranquilised by their constant responsiveness and active effort to understand what we were talking about.  We used diagrams to avoid any communication gaps since we learnt this biology in English and didn’t want any sensitivity or accuracy to be lost in our conversational Hindi. 

We also retained our portion on the excretory system. We were of the opinion that it was essential to inform the girls that the organs involved in reproduction differ from those engaged in excretion. This further clarified their understanding of their bodies.

We then moved on to a section the girls were somewhat familiar with and also the most eager to understand: menstruation. We went over the basics of what a period is, why it happens, how long it lasts etc. The girls were more attentive during this section, grasping onto every word and enthusiastically asking us questions. One girl asked us if it was normal to bleed a lot more than the rest of her peers during her cycle. We were extremely glad she felt safe enough in this environment to ask us a question specific to her. We then explained to them how different people have different bodies and different flows. Until and unless your flow is too high or low, there is no cause for concern. 

Moving onto vaginal discharges, we realised this was a conversation they were being exposed to for the first time. We went over the different types of discharges, reiterating their normalcy since it’s simply a tool used by our bodies to clean themselves. 

The topic of cleanliness leads us to discuss the importance of maintaining hygiene during the menstrual cycle. We explained some critical steps to be taken while one is on their period, like regularly changing a pad every 4-5 hours. By showing them how to wear and dispose of a pad properly, we explained its importance so as not to cause any infections.

We closed our talk with a dialogue about consent. Like our last talk,  we were unsure whether we should discuss such a sensitive topic, but since the girls at our previous talk responded well to our view on consent, we decided to include it again. We approached it by talking about good and bad touch. To our surprise, the girls there were already aware of these concepts. This allowed us to have a conversation rather than a speech from our end.

To conclude our session, we gave the girls an open platform to ask us all their questions. After resolving those, we distributed packets of pads and a pamphlet describing the proper way pad disposal method. After this, it was time for us to say goodbye. The girls thanked us, and the teachers showed their appreciation for our efforts and the talk’s turnout. 

Towards the end, we also had the opportunity to talk to the organisation’s co-founder. Her insights informed us of how we can improve our talk and cover missing aspects. She expressed her gratitude for positively impacting the girls. Her final comments and the girls’ smiles as they waved goodbye made our day. 

Here are some links for you to check out Voice of Slum’s work: 


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Twitter

LinkedIn

Facebook

Article by Prathna Anand from the REDefine Team

My Grandparents Think They’re Synonyms

The Distinction Between Sex and Gender

Sex and gender. At first glance, these words seem to be synonymous, but that is far from the truth. These two powerful words have drastically different meanings and cannot be used interchangeably. “Gender” is a range of characteristics a person identifies with, like a social construct, which is not objective but rather created and agreed upon by people. However, when we refer to the “sex” of a person, we are talking about the biological attributes derived from their chromosomes. 

‘Gender’ in itself is a big term and is best defined as a spectrum. This reinforces the idea that gender varies past the binary definition. Some examples of genders under this umbrella:

  1. Cisgender: When people identify as their sex assigned at birth.
  2. Gender queer or non-binary: A range of gender identities outside of binary denotations; left more open for interpretation.
  3. Transgender: Those whose gender identity is not the same as their sex
  4. Genderfluid: people who do not have a fixed expression of gender, causing it to shift over a period of time.

*This is not a complete list of all identities under the spectrum 

Males are born with one X and one Y chromosome. Females are born with two X chromosomes. Intersex people have certain chromosomal differences resulting in the reproductive organs of both males and females in some cases. This is their assigned sex (a label given at birth based on medical factors, including hormones, chromosomes, and genitals) and is often confused with their assigned gender (the gender assigned to an infant at birth, meant to correspond to the assigned sex) and assumed gender (the gender others assume an individual to be based on the sex they are assigned at birth, as well as apparent gender markers such as physical build, voice, clothes, and hair).

The differences are crucial to note, as confusion between them leads to the categorization of people under the ‘default’ binaries of male and female, which may be inaccurate and enforce gender roles or harmful stereotypes.

In India, an estimated 4.8 million people identified as non-binary in 2011, and yet the stigma around this identification persists. They were initially confused as transgender as both these terms overlap in some, but not all, cases. This confusion stems from the sheer lack of awareness of the gender spectrum and the numerous identities under it. The confusion was corrected after recognition of the need for differentiation and clarification that the transgender identity overlaps with the umbrella of non-binary. However, this still doesn’t mean that every transgender person identifies as non-binary and vice versa. 

People have started to become more conscious of ‘gender’ as a whole. Most of us have come across, or perhaps have, gender pronouns (they/them, she/her, he/they) mentioned in Instagram bios or Zoom names, but not all of us fully understand their purpose. While they not only allow other people to refer to us with our preferred pronouns, it also indicates that we will not assume any person’s gender. That’s why it is not just the non-binary community that needs to identify itself but the binary too. 

It may seem trivial, but certain terms (e.g. ladies and gentlemen, his and hers, etc.) are exclusionary and may leave those not neatly fitting into the designated categories out of the conversation. Getting rid of gendered terms or assumptions of another person’s gender and replacing that with gender declaration at the beginning of an interaction is the beginning of the path towards gender inclusivity, whether that is in a work, school or social environment.

Neglection of the gender spectrum has various consequences, particularly for mental well-being. Gender dysphoria is a common result. It is the sense of unease due to the mismatch of assigned sex and gender identity. This may occur in adults and adolescents, but it may not be consistent, occurring over certain periods of time. Despite its prevalence, it’s not necessary that this occurs in all people whose gender identity is different to their assigned sex. Varying in intensity, it can negatively affect someone, causing problems such as depression and anxiety. Some people may also experience pressure to go through with corrective surgeries to ‘properly fit’ into the category of male, female or any other. These types of surgeries are increasing in popularity all over the world, but the impact that comes along with them must also be taken into account. They may lead to excessive loss of blood, infections, and loss of sexual sensation, among many other unwanted and detrimental consequences.

People should not be forced to fit in boxes and conform to the predetermined binaries in society. Can we all truly say that identifying as a man or woman adds to a person’s character? No, it doesn’t, and that is why we all must be more conscious of our actions and language and be mindful of any gendered greetings in a conversation. The only reason we do so is because of the numerous attributes and roles we have assigned to genders, but in reality, are restrictive and inessential.

Article written by Tara Karni Devi Bajaj and researched by Gia Arora

Featured Artwork by Sanvee Jatia

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Our Second Talk with Parkshala

REDefine, with its new heads, returned to Parkshala after four years to give a talk. 

Dear reader, 

As a consequence of the COVID-19 pandemic, we were forced to give talks online for almost two years. We waited with bated breath for the 10th of May to arrive, a very special day for our team at REDefine: our first offline talk after an unwanted hiatus!

Our audience was a group of 25 girls between the ages of 13-16 taught at the NGO Parkshala™

Parkshala™ is a charitable organisation in Noida that tutors students who belong to lower-income groups and, in its own words, aims to “bridge the educational and moral gap between economically weak children and their affluent peers.” On the 9th of April, 2018, REDefine gave its first talk at Parkshala, where the founding team discussed menstruation and sex and ended the conversation with a distribution of reusable pads.

Since the talk in 2018 was an excellent experience for our founders, we decided to go back to Parkshala for another talk to track our progress along Parkshala’s.

We started with an introduction, and after playing a ball game to break the ice, we began discussing puberty. Before we went on with our planned script, we asked the girls what bodily changes they had noticed in themselves over the last few years. They were hesitant to speak, but some soft, unsure answers trickled in. They mentioned growth in height, hair growth, widening of the hips, etc. Their responses are what we used to kickstart the talk: by introducing puberty. We distinguished between pubertal changes within males and females. We explained to them that it is crucial to know about these topics since these changes are natural and shouldn’t be taboo. 

It was crucial for us to discuss the differences between a male and female reproductive system. We compared the two diagrams to differentiate between the testes, ovaries, penises and vaginas. Although we anticipated unstoppable giggling, the girls were incredibly mature throughout our discussion. 

We discussed how the vagina differs from the urethra, as this distinction is often unclear. In such a situation, using menstrual products like tampons, menstrual cups or disks without this knowledge could be harmful. Translating each biological term into Hindi was challenging, as there was no room for error while discussing such a critical topic. The diagrams we used to assist our talk prevented any miscommunication.

We then moved on to the much-awaited portion of our talk: periods. We talked through all its essential aspects, from what they are to how they occur or the symptoms they trigger. Our conversation included basic facts about periods, but most importantly, some medical concerns during menstruation that might require a doctor’s consultation. 

We went over the various types of vaginal discharges that ranged from simple bodily cleansing to signs of infections. The topic of infections led us to discuss hygiene during periods. For this, we first explained some critical steps to be taken while one is on their period, like regularly changing a pad or wearing it safely and comfortably to prevent the risk of infection.

Lastly, we talked about consent. We debated whether this sensitive topic should be a part of our talk or not since our audience ranged from the age of 13-year-old girls to 16-year-olds as they have not had the same exposure to relationships as we did. At the same time, it was an extremely crucial topic for them. We decided to take a light approach by talking about “good touch” and “bad touch”. Since we thought the girls might not fully comprehend it in one go, we used the analogy of two people in a car. We asked them to visualise the effects of someone taking over the control of a car they’re driving without their permission and how the consequences of this can be mirrored with non-consensual touch.

In closing, we handed out a short survey to the girls asking questions like “Do periods happen to everyone?”, “Do periods stop after a certain age?” etc. The aim was to evaluate whether we got across to them through our discussion. Afterwards, we discussed the answers with the girls. While there were some misconceptions that we promptly resolved, most of the girls had a thorough understanding of menstruation and its related topics.

To take our efforts further, we distributed some pads, purchased using funds that were raised by the founders, to the girls along with a few snacks and were met with delighted faces. 

We also received an innocent question from a young girl who asked, “How will you know if your period has happened?” and an older girl instantly responded by saying that one day she will experience pain near her stomach and when she goes to the washroom, she will notice a little blood on her undergarments. That is when she will know that her period has started. Seeing that simple exchange was incredibly uplifting as the girls seemed to have a sound support system and comfortable environment. We were welcomed to Parkshala with nervous faces, but we bid goodbye to smiling ones! 

Here are some links for you to check out Parkshala’s work: 

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Article by Sia Aggarwal from the REDefine Team

Combatting Taboos with Education

In today’s progressive times, menstruation, and sexual health and hygiene, are still not as widely discussed as they should be, especially in countries with low literacy rates. The subjects carry a lot of stigma and taboos, particularly in rural areas in India. These beliefs commonly stem from misinterpreted religious beliefs. They can spread false information and create other issues such as an imposition of restrictions and rules by the community upon a menstruators lifestyle. Another such problem is the lack of awareness around non-binary and transgender male menstruators and women who are unable to menstruate due to infertility. All these issues impact menstruators negatively, whether that means worsening mental and emotional health or causing adolescent girls to drop out when they reach their menarche.

In many parts of the world, menstruation is still known as ‘dirty and impure’, even though this lacks any scientific reasoning. Many such beliefs perpetuate this ideology. A prominent one, existing in India since the Vedic times, is that menstrual blood is a manifestation of Indra’s guilt (God of the Sky) for killing a Brahman (a Hindu priest), creating a negative association with menstruation. 

Another harmful belief is that menstrual blood is dangerous and can allow a woman to impose her will on a man. Due to the solid patriarchal structure prevalent everywhere, this belief prevents women from entering sacred places/puja rooms. Even though there is no scientific evidence to back up this fact, such flawed information spreads rapidly, especially among rural communities. 

In many cases, menstruators associate their own body with ‘dirt and impurity’, as they know no better, which can have implications on their mental health. Girls in certain villages even drop out of school after getting their period out of the fear of being ostracised by the community and the lack of facilities. 

In most families, a mother is heavily relied on to guide an adolescent through puberty. Still, these topics are considered so personal that it is considered vulgar to even speak about them, labelling them ‘forbidden’ issues. Adolescent girls are left behind with unanswered questions and doubts, causing them to further perpetuate the passing on of these socio-cultural taboos and beliefs. The root of the issue is the false narrative assigned to menstruation and sex, notions looked at through a negative lens. Growing up with limited knowledge leads to ill-informed decisions regarding one’s menstrual and sexual health.

Another global problem is the exclusion of non-binary and transgender male menstruators. Young children who identify as anything other than cisgender females are excluded from the education about such topics, leaving them in the dark about various biological processes, mainly because schools only focus this education on girls. The students are separated based on their assumed gender for these sessions, so while the girls may have information on these topics as preteens, menstruators of other genders may not have access to the same. This extreme ignorance is even reflected in government campaigns and initiatives that only provide support to women. Retail is also a concern as period products like pads and tampons are often flagrantly marketed as “for women” or as “feminine hygiene products”. Although this does not stop menstruators of other genders from purchasing these products, it preserves the notion that all menstruators are women, ingraining it in a customer’s mind and making this mindset a systemic issue.

Unsafe health practices, like using contaminated or dirty material when managing menstrual blood, are among the numerous issues arising from lack of education. They can lead to both physical and mental health issues starting from vaginal infections to sexually transmitted diseases or gender dysmorphia.

To avoid such problems in the future, the government must mandate education on menstrual and sexual health and hygiene for all students across the nation. This should also be taught as early as possible to inform all students about the gender-neutral biological process, as well as how to manage it. 

Rural villages facing these problems need to receive adequate aid and supplies to promote hygiene. Provision of pads and workshops on how to use them as well as medical facilities to treat infections and diseases must be provided by the government. Along with this, it’s equally important for people of all ages to be included in order to cut off the generational transfer of stigmas.

Whether it’s the fact that menstrual and sexual health and hygiene are deeply stigmatised in many communities, or the exclusion of certain groups of menstruators, all these issues have severe ramifications on the menstruators themselves. Proper education and immediate government intervention is the only way to eradicate such challenges and make space for well-informed individuals. It’s crucial for every person of every background to be more aware of the issues faced by menstruators so we can work towards a more knowledgeable and inclusive community.

Article by Tara Karni Devi Bajaj

Featured Artwork by Sanvee Jatia

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